Dealing with unwanted crushes...

I'm currently dealing ( actually I'm not dealing with it, I'm ignoring it) with being the "object" of a crush. I've know it for a while, and I'm doing my best to ignore the situation, as I'm the supervisor and NOT interested. My fellow supervisor and I actually talked about this issue yesterday ( on a similar situation), and in our job, it's grounds for dismissal.

My poor co-worker got cornered today by the person. I knew as soon as she walked in the room what happened. I looked at her and said" just laugh if this is what I think happened". When I told her, she howled with laughter!

I will say my co-worker dealt with the man in a good manner, but I'll have to deal with at some point. I'll be honest and say that he makes me feel uncomfortable by times ( creeps me out to be honest).
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Out My window said…
Be careful, I was unaware of a crush once and it cost me my peace of mind and a good friendship. The man should have been in jail, but I tried to protect his family and mine from the media circus. Take this kind of behavior seriously.
March 21, 2012 at 8:00 PM
Jane said…
It's good you can laugh about it but like Kim says, be careful. Some folk don't take rejection easily (though I know you would be very sensitive). I would find that hard to deal with too and would likely try to ignore as much as I could.
March 21, 2012 at 9:23 PM
Northern Living Allowance said…
Oh yikes! Tread carefully, Sam, and do take care of it sooner rather than later. Is this person aware that you know about the crush? It's fine to ignore it, but I believe you can only do that for so long, before it becomes uncomfortable for everyone. Good luck!
March 21, 2012 at 9:55 PM
Tania said…
At work... yeah, unwanted crushes are a BAD thing. Write it up. Record your conversations with the other supervisor and have them sign it. Have a small meeting involving HR. Just trust me on this one. I've seen the smallest things turn into EEOC claims, and it just isn't fun, funny or fair. Let them know that you're not interested and you don't appreciate their advances.
March 22, 2012 at 11:22 AM
The Witch said…
Sam,
Very creepy indeed. Sometimes ignoring the person will make it worse. I think your blogger buddies have given you some very good sound advise. I've seen some very smart people do some very dumb things when they are infatuated with someone.
March 24, 2012 at 9:43 AM
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