Sunday, November 3, 2013

Changes

I'd first like to say thank you all for your thoughts prayers and hugs over the past week.  It has been an emotional week, but cathartic at the same time. So many people stopping by my mothers house or stopping us on the street or in the stores, with a kind word, a hug, and stories of my father. I've laughed so hard by times over hijinks my father was a part of in his life and most of the stories I've never head before. I've had phone calls and texts, facebook messages all expressing their condolences. 

The visits at the funeral home were busy. I stood for 2.5 hours in the afternoon and 1.5 in the evening without a break ( the last half hour Friday night we had a few people come, but it was so good to have a chance to sit and chat with family). Some of DD's friends drove 4 hours to see her  and give her a hug.  I had friends from work and high school  show up to say a kind word and a hug.There was so many people... The funeral was packed too. The priest knew my father well and spoke well of him and my dad's love of nature.

I can say that I'm at peace with my fathers passing, as I had booked a session with a spiritual healer on Wednesday weeks ago. I kept the appointment and all I can say is WOW... The person didn't know anything but my first name and it was enlightening...

My brother is taking this very hard. He's dealing with a lot of things right now, so I think this is just adding to his layer. My DD is doing ok, she's cried with my mom a few times and with me. My nephews were troopers, introducing themselves to  everyone that came, shaking hands and every so often, they'd go to my mother, give her a hug and stand by my dad's ashes and have a say...

I'm not returning to work until the 12th, so I'll be home for a while... and if anyone lives close by, feel free to stop by to get some cake, cookies, sweets, pie, rolls,  chicken or ham... total count of roasted chicken is 8, ham's 4, cakes 5, pies 9 and bags of rolls at least 12...

8 comments:

Sass said...

Hugs and thoughts to you! I know it must be so hard. Your father obviously left behind a lot of love and that's a wonderful thing.

Jane said...

What a wonderful outpouring of support - sounds like you could feed an army. I'd love to help you out with the eating but i'm too far away. I'm glad you've got a bit of time off to adjust to your loss - sounds like your head is in a good place.
(((hugs000

Jolie said...

I am so glad you all could be together for this. I remember the 'memory laughter' when gram passed. It made it all just a little bit easier.

mylifeinfocusblog said...

Sorry for your loss. Peace and hugs.

The Witch said...

Sam,
Going to the spiritual healer probably helped you cope ahead of time, but also for you to help the rest of your family at the present moment.
You have to love living in a community which brings the best out of every person to try and help the people who are dealing with the most pain. No one feels like cooking or much else eating but you have too.
I'm glad you have some time off before returning to work.

Lena said...

Thinking of you right now! Hugs!

Hawaii Planner said...

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

T'Pol said...

e-Hugs to you and your mom! I lost my father almost 20 years ago due to a ruptured aorta for no known health issue. I was 27 then. He was 54. It still hurts me very deeply and I still miss him a great deal. He was the best. I always remember him with something funny. He had a great sense of humor and he was such a fun person. Till the day we meet them again, let's remember them smiling and laughing...

About Me

Who am I said Sam? I am.... a mother, a daughter, a dog owner, a PF