So, my dad will need 24 hour supervision/care from here on in. Yep, someone monitoring him 24/7 until he dies. His cognitive skills are poor and are not likely to come back. He's no longer permitted to drive ( but since he's not capable of walking unaided to the car, no worries there!). He has no depth perception and is still weak on the left side. He can remember things that happened years ago, but some things and people he can't remember. Yesterday, he asked where my son was for example. I told him, I don;t have a son, just my DD. Poor DD, my dad can't even remember her name 3/4 of the time. When she was home for a visit, he called her the wrong name during the entire visit, yet he remembered her BFF's name.
His lungs are congested again... I see another round of antibiotics in his future.
My mother had such high hopes, and yesterday she was crushed. The realization that my dad will have to be constantly monitored and the responsibilities for his care will fall on her. I'll be helping out as much as i can, but I'm going back to working shift work the end of June, so for 4 days I'll be out. Add in 2 days to my pt job, and I'll be off for 2 days out of 8.
They are going to do an assessment on him to see how much care will be paid for and how much we'll have to help pay for. Thank goodness that we have a family that will help out. We're planning a family meeting to get things sorted out and make the plan for having things added to the house like grab bars, etc.
It is hard to watch a parent become a child again, including the wearing of a diaper, as his stoke has affected his bladder and bowels. My father is/was famous for having a bad aim, and now? Sitting is the preferred position.
I'm sitting here laughing to myself, as tis better to laugh than to cry over this. Before my dad had his surgery, he said the worst things that could happen would be he'd died. I thought no, having a stoke would be the worst, the body would be here, but the personality would be gone. Sadly, my worse thoughts came true.
we'll roll with the punches and see what life has to offer. I'm still going to be job hunting ( I made it very clear to my mom that when I get an offer, I'm gone, I'll rent the house and go from there).
What's up for the weekend?
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